We barebacked – could we have HIV

I was fucked by someone not wearing a condom. Both of us have been tested since and it came back that we don’t have any STIs. Is it still possible to get STIs/HIV? 

If both you and your partner have recently had a sexual health screening and your tests have come back negative then there is no infection for you to pass to one another. However, there is a window period of at least four weeks for HIV and ten days for other STIs during which tests are unreactive to antibodies or infections. If you have had sex with someone during that period, there is a chance that you may have picked something up if they had an STI. If you are having sex with a casual partner, it is best to always use a condom in order to avoid catching STIs including HIV. To find out more about the risk associated with different sexual acts, have a look at GMFA’s How Risky Is…? section on their website. www.gmfa.org.uk/sex


No sensation when fucking

When I top, I do not feel much while I am inside my boyfriend. We do not use condoms but I still do not feel any stimulation on my penis. Why is this? My penis seens to go numb only when I insert it inside hin and I end up losing my erection. I think it’s because he is too tight, which is making my penis go numb, cause the blood is being pushed out of it. Is that possible? I need answers! 

Losing your erection as a top is common, even when you don’t use a condom. If your partner’s arse is very tight, it could play a part in this. You could try opening your partner up with your fingers or with toys or spending some time rimming him before fucking him. You should also use plenty of lube to make your cock slide inside him more easily. Water-based lube is good but silicone-based lube dries out more slowly, so perhaps it’s an idea to try it out. You could also try wearing a cock ring that will stop the blood from leaving the cock and keeps you hard for longer. If these methods don’t work you could try Viagra or any herbal version thereof.


Bored of wanking

I am 19 years old (almost 20 now!) and I am not sexually active. After almost six years of wanking I am starting to get bored of it now. Are there any other ways I can play without involving a sexual partner? I hope you can help me. 

There are different ways that you can pleasure yourself if you don’t want to have sex with a partner. If you don’t do it already, you could try wanking with different types of lubes. You can choose from a variety of silicone or water-based lubes which are available both online and in sex shops. Some tingling or minty lubes can be exceptionally fun to play with.  Fleshjacks, which are silicone moulds of a man’s arse or mouth are also fun to use. They are as close to the real thing as you are going to get (unless it is the real thing) so just throw in a little lube and pound away. You can buy them online and get them discreetly delivered to your door. Another way of making wanking more fun for yourself is by experimenting with edging, which is teasing yourself by wanking to the point of cumming and abruptly stopping before you do so. You can repeat this a few times and you will find your orgasm intensify once you let yourself shoot. You can also try playing with your arse whilst wanking. All men have a G-spot a few inches inside their arsehole. You can stimulate it with your finger or with a dildo or vibrator. If you would like further tips on different ways of wanking, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/wanking-techniques.


Please note, the advice GMFA provides is intended to support, not replace, the relationship that exists between you and your doctor. GMFA recommends you visit your GP or GUM clinic if you have a sexual health need.  To find your nearest GUM clinic, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/clinics.