When it comes to sex and relationships there is no such thing as a stupid question. Here are our answers to some of the things you asked us via the GMFA website. 


My friend came in my mouth. 

Last week after school I sucked my friend’s cock and he came into my mouth. I swallowed his cum. Is this bad? Should I get checked out? And also I have noticed that after having a wank I feel really sweaty, wet and stinky around my cock. Why is this? 

Sucking cock is very low risk for HIV. If you get cum in your mouth the risk is increased but it is still relatively low as saliva is known to have properties which kill off HIV. Sucking cock however does hold a risk for other STIs including gonorrhoea and chlamydia. Having a wet and sweaty cock after wanking is normal.


He tested negative for HIV. Can I fuck him?

Is it possible that someone may test negative for HIV but he’s actually positive and may infect someone later? Can I fuck with someone who has had a recent negative test result?

HIV tests are accurate to about a month before the test is taken. You’ll need to consider whether he’s likely to have taken any risks in that period and if you’re the only guy fucking him now.Fucking someone without a condom is less risky than getting fucked without a condom, but it is still one of the riskiest sexual practices that gay men do. If you are HIV-negative, fucking someone bareback is more likely to lead to infection than sucking cock. Other infections in or around his arse, such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea, herpes, syphilis, warts and hepatitis B can also be passed to the guy fucking. One of the most effective way to stay safe during penetrative sex is to use condoms. Although they are a very effective ways to stop HIV from getting into your body, you can still pick up other STIs like gonorrhoea, chlamydia, herpes and hepatitis B even if you wear a condom. 


HIV from swallowing cum? 

Can you get HIV if you swallow your partner’s sperm in oral sex and can you get any STIs if a bit of sperm goes in your arse?  

Although high volumes of HIV live in a positive guy’s cum, saliva is known to have properties which kill HIV. There have, however, been some cases reported where men have become HIV-positive from getting cum in their mouth, so it isn’t completely without risk although the risk is relatively small. You can, however, get other infections from swallowing cum, including gonorrhoea, chlamydia and syphilis. The chance of contracting HIV is significantly increased if you get an HIV-positive guy’s cum in your arse.


First time doing anal 

How easy is it to be fucked for the first time. Is anal sex sore?

Every person is different so it’s hard to say how easy or difficult it will be for you to take your first cock. The key is to use plenty of lube, both on your hole as well as on your partner’s cock. It is also important to talk to your partner and ask him to go slow when trying to penetrate you. Remember that if you are not enjoying it or if it is too painful, you don’t have to do it and there are plenty of other sexual things that you can enjoy without getting fucked. If you would like to find out more on how to get fucked, visit our dedicated webpage at www.gmfa.org.uk/how-to-get-fucked.


How easy is it to pass on chlamydia? 

I just finished a course of antibiotics for chlamydia. I am meeting my partner shortly who, of course, I will urge to be tested. Anal and oral sex is out of the question until I know he’s been tested. But is kissing (especially his nipples) OK? And what about rimming? Is that safe? 

It is best to avoid any sexual contact until your partner has been tested and potentially cured so that you can avoid passing the infection back and forth if your partner has also been infected. No one has ever reported catching chlamydia from kissing, and licking/kissing the nipples is not a problem. However, oral sex, including rimming holds some risk for transmission of chlamydia and should be avoided until both partners are cured of the infection. 

You can find out more on the risk associated with different sexual acts by logging on to our how risky is…? pages, and for more on chlamydia, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/chamydia.


Please note, the advice GMFA provides is intended to support not replace the relationship that exists between you and your doctor. GMFA recommends you visit your GP or GUM clinic if you have a sexual health need.  To find your nearest GUM clinic, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/clinics.   


For sex and sexual health advice, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/sex



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HEP C

Hepatitis C is not as easily passed on as hepatitis A or hepatitis B, but it can cause long-term damage to your health and there is no vaccine to prevent it. The hepatitis C virus is present primarily in blood (including dried blood) and can also be present in cum. Traditionally injecting drug use was the most common way to catch hepatitis C but it is now known that unprotected sex, particularly high risk sex, and chem sex is associated with hep C infection. In particular HIV-positive gay men are getting hepatitis C sexually. However, this does not mean HIV-negative guys are not at risk from unprotected sex.

There are a number of ways that hep C can be transmitted. 

These are:

Fucking without condoms with a man who has hep C. 

Sharing needles or works for injecting drugs, including steroids, with someone who has hep C. 

Being fisted by a man with hep C who has cuts or sores on his hand and isn’t wearing a glove.

Being fisted by a man who has just fisted another man with hep C and who hasn’t put on an unused latex glove or thoroughly washed his hands between partners. 

Being fucked by someone who has just fucked another man with hep C and who didn’t change condoms between partners (or use condoms at all). 

Using a dildo or other sex toy that has just been used on a man with hep C and which hasn’t been thoroughly cleaned, or had a new condom put on it. 

Sharing a drug snorting straw, banknote or bullet with someone with hep C, as small specks of infected blood could be on the straw, banknote or bullet.

How do you prevent it? 

Using a new condom when you fuck or get fucked. 

Using a new sterile syringe and needle for injecting steroids or recreational drugs. 

Making sure the man fisting you is wearing an unused latex glove. If you don’t have any latex gloves, make sure the man fisting you doesn’t have cuts or sores on his hands and has washed his hands thoroughly if he has just fisted someone else. 

Using a new condom on your dildo if it’s been used on someone else. 

Using your own drug snorting straw, banknote or bullet.

How do you know you’ve got it? 

Hepatitis C produces many of the same symptoms as hepatitis A and B, although most people do not notice any symptoms when they are first infected. A sexual health clinic can test you for hepatitis C. Make sure you ask for a test if you think you have been at risk. It is tested for by taking a blood sample.


To get more information on STIs, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/stis.


THIS ARTICLE WAS TAKEN FROM ISSUE #149. 

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