When it comes to sex and relationships there is no such thing as a stupid question.  Here are our answers to some of the things you asked us via the GMFA website. 


Sex with a recently tested HIV-negative man

Is it possible that someone may get a negative HIV test results but he actually has HIV and the infection may show sometime later. Can I have sex with someone who has a recent negative test result? 

Most HIV tests have a window period of about four weeks. This means that the test results are only accurate up to four weeks before taking the test. So if someone was infected with HIV today, a test will not usually register this until four weeks later. If you are uncertain of someone’s HIV status, it is recommended to always use a condom with that person.


My foreskin and rectum are bleeding

I’m 15-years-old and I wanted to ask a few questions about my body. I think I have phimosis and I noticed that I had rectal bleeding recently. Help please.

Phimosis is a condition where the foreskin is too tight to be pulled back over the head of the penis (glans). It’s common in babies but if left untreated in adulthood, it can be inconvenient and make sex difficult. Depending on how tight your foreskin is, you may need to get your foreskin expanded or circumcised. We would advise you that you make an appointment with your GP and ask them to refer you to an urologist so that they can advise you on how to proceed. We appreciate that you might feel embarrassed to see your GP, but phimosis is a common condition and your doctor will be very familiar with it.

Rectal bleeding can be caused by your stools being too hard which can be a result of not having enough fibre in your diet. Soluble fibre dissolves in water therefore making the stools softer. It can be found in fruits, vegetables, beans and grains. Bleeding in your anus can also be caused by piles which can usually be treated with over-the-counter creams. If you notice that the bleeding persists, you should get examined by your doctor.


Worried about having anal sex

I have met a guy who I would like to eventually have anal sex with (having not had it for four years). I don’t sleep around and it’s kind of a big thing for me, and working as a dancer means that these muscles are particularly tight. I thought I could try to finger myself using water-based lube but I encountered some bleeding. It’s not painful but I am now too worried to try again. Should I go to the doctor or wait for it to heal again? 

The bleeding, if not too severe will heal shortly, but if it does persist, you should visit your GP. If you are going to get fucked and you are worried that it will hurt or your anus will bleed again, it is important to use enough water-based or silicone-based lube. You should also relax and make sure you communicate with your partner about him going easy on you. Ask him to open you up by rimming your arse or playing with it gently using his fingers. Make sure he doesn’t have long, sharp nails so that he doesn’t hurt you. You can also try out different positions that are more likely to make your arse relaxed so that you can take your partner’s cock.


Please note, the advice GMFA provides is intended to support, not replace the relationship that exists between you and your doctor. GMFA recommends you visit your GP or GUM clinic if you have a sexual health need. 

To find your nearest GUM clinic, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/clinics.

For sex and sexual health advice, visit www.gmfa.org.uk/sex.


This article was taken from FS #147: CHEMSEX EXPOSED


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